We have left the HIV epidemic behind, and there are now treatments available that can provide people with HIV a semi-normal, long life. However, this doesn’t mean that being HIV positive doesn’t affect each and every aspect of your life, love and dating included. For most people, finding out that they are positive might feel like they will end up alone. This couldn’t be further from the truth since there is a large HIV dating community which is very welcoming and you won’t feel alone while searching for love and intimacy.
So, you have found out that you are HIV positive, and initial shock usually ensues. People start by blaming themselves for not being careful and that guilt can eat you up. So just don’t, the best way to deal with this new situation you have found yourself in is to, first – accept it, second – adjust to it. This might sound harsh, but it is the best piece of advice you can get. Your physician will provide you with the treatment you need to maintain a normal life, but when it comes to your social life, you will have to do the heavy lifting. Finding a support group is always a good first step, and hearing how others adjusted to their ‘new normal’ and the first pos date experience. This might help with your re-entry into the world of dating. Now, let’s see how else you can prepare for the HIV dating scene.
This isn’t easy because each time you tell someone you have HIV, it feels like you are accepting the blame for something you might or might not have done. This isn’t the right way to take on this issue, as it might lead to depression and other mental health issues. Having HIV is nothing to be ashamed of, and you shouldn’t let anyone make you feel like you are unworthy of love. So, just be honest, first to the people around you, your family and friends, and then to your partner or date. It will feel a lot better once you open up, and you will get the love and acceptance you need, and if you don’t, that just means that those people simply don’t belong in your life anymore. Of course, if you want to avoid the unpleasant first date conversation, you can always opt to date within the HIV community, there are bound to be a lot of HIV singles who are looking for love just like you are. And the best part is that you will only find acceptance and no judgment, which means that you can be yourself and just focus on finding the perfect partner.
Don’t give up on love
The most important thing when it comes to living and loving with HIV is the fact that, with the help of modern medicine, you will be able not only to live a long life but also to have a family. There is no reason to give up on love and finding that one special person to share the rest of your life with. You do need to be prepared for some level of rejection and lack of understanding, which is the reality of dating, but you shouldn’t let that rule the way you see yourself and your life. Yes, a positive HIV diagnosis means you will have to adjust, but it doesn’t mean you have to settle for anything less than you deserve, and that is a life full of love and happiness.
This is what constitutes love and dating with HIV, the disease does make things a bit more difficult but not impossible. So, get out there and find the love and life you deserve.